Children are lovely and adorable whose joyful innocence can amaze and also rejuvenate us. Their creativity and ability to play with almost anything is impressive. These qualities are so important that should be cherished and preserved into adulthood.
Knowing this do we still feel shouting in response to child’s play is a good educational method? We often see it in the supermarket – somebody loses temper and shouts at the kid. If we value children’s spontaneity and creativity perhaps we should make an effort to create an atmosphere of peace and security in our relationships with them.
It’s interesting to look at Danish way of parenting. Why? Because according to the World Happiness Report by the United Nations, people living in this Scandinavian country are the happiest in the world, and have been since 1973. Investigators claim Danish happiness is a product of hygge. Hygge is a means of obtaining a comfortable conviviality which creates a feeling of contentment and fosters closeness. It can be related to the physical surroundings — a blanket can be cozy, or a warm bed, but primarily refers to with people’s behavior towards each other.
In the book “The Danish Way of Parenting: What the Happiest People in the World Know About Raising Confident, Capable Kids”, by Jessica Joelle Alexander and Iben Sandahl, based on the Danish philosophy of hygge explain how shouting at kids is rarely seen in Denmark. How do parents in Denmark achieve this? One parent explains, “I think that we as parents have to remain calm and do not lose control over ourselves. Because if we can’t achieve this, how can we expect from our children to have control over themselves? It would be not fair”.
The Danish parenting philosophy seems rational and reasonable, and as they say it creates happy adults. We can see a perfect example of this style of parenting in this video:
Innocent and creative play for children is important, so inhibiting children by shouting can lead to undesired outcomes. As Mr. Robers said, “When we treat children’s play as seriously as it deserves, we are helping them feel the joy that’s to be found in the creative spirit. It’s the things we play with and the people who help us play that make a great difference in our lives.”
Source: mb.ntd.tv
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